Femme_Domme_Fatale

This is a topic I usually stay away from because it directly contradicts what I feel about  Female Led Relationship  dynamics.  If you want a female led relationship why do you want your submissive partner to be more female? If you are turned on by strong women dominating you then why do you have to abandon your masculinity and become female to be comfortable with it? Photo home and website used for research:  https://sites.google.com/site/sissyinpinksatin/shoes-from-pink-bow Make no mistake, I am shaming no-one for their preferences. If feminization or playing with gender turns you on then more power to you. It just, in my own head, defeats the purpose of femdom. I've mentioned  before  that dominating the strong is so much better than dominating the weak. If I am going to be proud of my own dominance I would much rather tame a lion than a kitten.  Still, I never like to be perplexed by sexual preferences. Understanding the mindset of submissives (of ...

I don't know about everyone else but what turns me on even more than good boys lavishing attention on me is watching them pleasure themselves (especially at my command).  Obedience is my personal kink. It's kind of weird. Even in a non sexual setting, people doing as they are told is a huge turn on for me. Ordering a boy to make me a cup of tea and having him do it without thinking gives me a tingling feeling.  So a great hobby of mine is instructing boys on how to pleasure themselves. Many boys who get into a submissive mindset need the instruction because when you are in a state that vulnerable, your faculties are not working properly. In order to start thinking again you need to pull yourself out of submission a little. That ruins the play quite a lot.  Keep in mind that I don't think it is healthy to remain in a submissive state for too long. The important thing about a high is that you come down from it.  So what does all this have to do with Voyuerism? Well, I ...

When training a boy it is always important to start small and be patient. If he gets it wrong be sure to punish him. Gentle and firm is always a good tone for first timers. Also be sure to praise what he gets right. So let's start with the easy positions: Attention: This is a good position to keep your boy in when he is servicing you but you don't need him for the moment. Make sure he stands up straight and keeps his chin up and arms by his side. Gently correct any poor posture changes with swift smacks to the bottom. Even the best boy can forget when is left for too long.  Wait: This one is great for service if you have continuous need for him and you need him to be on alert for his next order (he always should be but this is a good posture to remind him). He should stand straight with his legs spread and his arms behind his back. This is also a good position to keep him in if he is waiting for a spanking and you don't do corner time.  Kneeling: Kneeling should be a good b...

People tend to think that there is a one size fits all system for FLR or femdom in general. It just means that the woman is dominant, the man is submissive and there is no more nuance to it than that.  My view of FLR is similar to the way men viewed their relationships with women before the 20th century. There was an exchange of protection, being provided for and guidance for obedience, service and companionship. At the same time (except in bad circumstances) there was an element of respect on both sides.  It is not enough to control someone and dominate them. There has to be an element of affection involved. The 'more flies with honey than with vinegar' approach is what I go for. Pair kindness and generosity with discipline and firmness and you will have a boy that is loyal and grateful to the end of time. Control a boy through fear and the only power you have is fear. You have to ask yourself, "Is he doing this for me or is he doing it because he doesn't want to be p...