Too Much Self-love?


I'm not going to be coy here. I masturbate too much lately. Another thing that separates me from a lot of other Dommes is that I do not believe that just because you are dominant you get to masturbate whenever you want. 

I value self-discipline. If I am going to demand that from people I'm controlling I am damned well going to lead by example. 

I definitely get to cum a lot more than any boy I deal with but if I can't control myself then what the hell am I doing trying to exert control over someone else. 

I usually find the pleasure of others so much more satisfying than my own but I think it is lockdown and being separated from human contact that makes me so keen to masturbate so often ... like every day.

If one of my boys did this I wouldn't be best impressed. 

I think I mostly do it out of sheer boredom. 

But at the same time I am so busy with work and creating my audio erotica that I am almost working all day. Still, when I get into bed and try to relax I end up touching myself just to bring on that feeling of relaxation. 

I am well aware that as long as it doesn't become an obsession it is not exactly unhealthy but I still don't like that little self-discipline in my life.


Does anyone else have this problem? And if you feel like you over masturbate, why?


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