What do you do when a Boy wants too much of your time?

 


So I am genuinely looking for a bit of advice here. 

If you don't read my blog I'll just say that there are two boys in my life whom I provide discipline for. These relationships are non-sexual. 

One of my boys is more independent but the other is rather needy. I don't see that as something to be ashamed of. In fact if one has a needy personality I think it can be quite damaging to close oneself off and not reach out when it is necessary. But I also believe that a Domme's responsibility is to guide a boy. A leader is not supposed to do all the work. 

I am very proud of the boy I have who keeps to his schedule, knows exactly when he needs discipline, and is respectful of my time. 

The other ... how can I put this?

Well, the best analogy I can give is a hypochondriac wasting a doctor's time. 

He thinks he needs discipline when he doesn't. He is constantly asking questions about how to conduct himself. And he gets upset with himself even if his behaviour is fine (this one happens infrequently though).

I am just at my wit's end on how to deal with him. I have tried: 

  • Punishing him for time wasting
  • Providing self discipline guidelines
  • Asking a female friend of his to keep an eye on his state
  • I've even talked to his mother (She doesn't know about the discipline I just told her that he was constantly texting me and acted concerned as if there was something going on in his life. I know there isn't but I thought it would nudge her into having a talk with him about his neediness).
God I wish I lived in a society that accepted male discipline as a common part of every day life. Then I could fob off these duties onto his mother.

I know a lot of Dommes might cut him off but I simply won't do that. I think it is cruel. Plus, I do not accept failure. If I fail to make this boy self-sufficient I will have failed him. At the end of the day he is a sub boy who is having trouble transitioning into submissive manhood. (Please don't take that to mean his is underage or much younger than me, he isn't. It's a maturity issue). 

So, any ideas?


Check out my erotic audios and erotic ASMR

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

Matriarchal Universes in Fiction

Image
For someone who writes a lot of matriarchal fiction I don't read a lot of it. Why? Because there is practically none to read.  My question is why? Why are people so uncomfortable with this? We have so many historical and fantasy based fictional universes with patriarchal societies. I understand that we see realism in that because it reflects our own history but what is with the reluctance to write or publish matriarchal works? They seem to be most present in science fiction and even then it tends to be a dystopian future with ALL female societies rather than a hierarchy more reminiscent of what we saw in our own patriarchal history. The most famous example of an all female society being Wonder Woman's homeland of Themyscira. Not that I don't love this character and Amazons in general but this view of men as the enemy never really sat well with me.  The closest I ever found was  'A Brother's Price' by Wen Spencer . It is still a dystopian fiction but it is a func
Read more

Spanking Chronicles: Diaper Position

Image
So, here is one that is neither used frequently or infrequently. You will recognise it but it is less popular that many other positions on this list. This is one that can be quite painful for the sub in comparison to others but it is not torturous pain. It is also a very vulnerable position that can induce humiliation. It is commonly known as: The Diaper Position.  Description: Spankee must lie on a flat surface, on their back, and bring their legs into the air exposing their arse. Some mistress' will get their boys to hold their legs. This is good practice as it keeps the legs where the are supposed to be. They can also put their hands under their tail bone to elevate the arse somewhat, giving the mistress a better target.  Effectiveness. I recommend making the boy hold his legs up. Not only because it is efficient on keeping everything where it is supposed to be but also because it induces the feeling on participation in the spanking. He is not just lying there and letting it hap
Read more

Spanking Chronicles: Over the Knee

Image
  This is the start of a series of blog posts I will be doing about different methods and positions of spanking, their effectiveness, their appropriateness, and how I personally feel about them.  So let's start with an old classic: Over the Knee Description: Over the Knee is pretty self explanatory. The spanker is sitting and the spankee lies across the knee with their arse either in the center or at the edge of one thigh. This is a position that is perfect for hand spanking but also permits the use of certain smaller implements. It's a position that is comfortable for both parties so focus can be placed entirely on the punishment. Effectiveness: This is very effective for boys who crave comfort or are prone to feeling guilty.  A quick punishment can be administered in this position if you want to administer corner time. If he has been standing for his punishment (especially a long one) you probably don't want to leave him standing in the corner for too long. It is effecti
Read more